Do nice guys really finish last?
As someone who enjoys listening to music, I often find myself trying to relate the lyrics of a song to people and circumstances in my own life.
One song in particular that I can relate to is “Bless the Broken Road,” by Rascal Flatts. This song describes the journey of finding true love.
I enjoy this song not because I have found my true love, but rather because of the journey I have taken trying to find that person.
Because I am a Christian, I feel God has a plan for my life. As part of this, I believe God will eventually provide me with a special person to spend the rest of my life with.
During the past ten or so years of my life, I have spent a great deal of time and effort trying to find this person. As a result of these experiences, I have gained a certain amount of knowledge and insight concerning dating and relationships.
I will try to offer some advice concerning these matters.
One important lesson I’ve learned is there is usually a reason why things don’t work out when trying to pursue a relationship with a particular person.
Perhaps, at first a person may seem like someone that you would want to date. However, after getting to know that person, you may find that you have too many differences to pursue a relationship with them.
More importantly though, I feel sometimes things don’t work out because God has someone else better suited for you.
I have come to believe a person might even be delayed in finding their intended true love because they are too focused on pursuing someone else.
I have also learned that sometimes a person can try too hard to find the right person. Sometimes an individual needs to relax and let people and circumstances fall into place.
I sometimes hear women say there are really no decent guys to date. In a way, I agree with this. It is depressing for me to see how many guys treat women as objects. I am disgusted that some guys in college want women mainly for sex.
At the same time, however, not every guy is like this. There are still decent guys out there. I feel more and more women think they are too good to date a nice guy who is considered average or modest by society’s standard. Sometimes, the nicest guys are the ones some women don’t consider to be attractive.
In a way, nice guys can appear to finish last. However, both guys and girls who are nice to others will eventually find the right person if they are patient.
In my opinion, these are the people who finish first.
Ron is a junior studying agricultural systems management.
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