He Said, She Said.
What are the warning signs that a relationship is not going to work out?
Published: Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Updated: Wednesday, September 12, 2012 16:09
He Said: “You can tell that a relationship is not going to work out if: you find yourself not liking a lot of her clothing choices, styles, hobbies, etc. She has different priorities than you; your personalities don’t match (you are laid back and she worries nonstop); or she does not appreciate the things you do for her,” Brady Hendricks, a fifth year senior majoring in management and business administration, said.
She Said: “If they are extremely clingy, constantly negative or not trusting, I know it won’t work. Also, if we have different beliefs and values on major things, it will only lead to issues later on,” Emily Weis, a freshman majoring in human development and family science, said.
We hear about bad relationships everywhere. A couple goes from “in a relationship” to “single” to “it’s complicated” before Facebook even knows what hit it. Celebrities (i.e. Tiger Woods, Kristen Stewart, Bill Clinton, etc.) seem to constantly be cheating on their significant others. Taylor Swift writes songs that make us wonder if any guy has ever treated her nicely.
Why so much heartache? According to scienceofrelationships.com, people stay in bad relationships because they believe they cannot do any better than their current partners, they have low self-images or they have already become too attached to the people they are seeing.
No one wants to waste time in a relationship that just won’t last. Below are a few ways you can tell early on if you should be headed for happiness or yelling, “Abort, abort, abort!” Therefore, Houston, here are the eight problems.
No. 1: Jealousy
The other person freaks out whenever you talk to the opposite gender. Jealousy ruins relationships. Plus, it will keep you from ever having friends of the opposite sex.
No. 2: Different values
You disagree on alcohol or smoking. People frequently attempt to overlook these differences, but if you despise the smell of cigarette smoke or love to party, being with someone who feels differently will only lead to fights.
No. 3: Meeting the parents
They avoid meeting your family. If someone truly cares about you -- even if he or she is very shy -- they should want to meet the people who are important to you.
No. 4: Cleanliness
Their hygiene leaves something to be desired. They only brush their teeth once a week? That will most likely become an issue later in the future.
No. 5: Chronic complainer
Complaints and criticisms dominate the conversation. Eventually, these complaints will be directed at your favorite Nikes, lack of a job, height, taste in music, love for Honey Bunches of Oats … you get the idea.
No. 6: Opposite views
You hold different religious or political beliefs. Most of the time incompatibility in relationships frequently stems from these two topics. Discover right away if it is going to be a problem.
No. 7: Control freak
They attempt to control your every move. Get out now! Controlling behavior only gets worse over time.
No. 8: Mother knows best … and so does everyone else
Your friends or family don’t like them. These people know you best. If they suggest that you should find someone who doesn’t write letters to Charles Manson in their spare time, listen to their advice.
Therefore, you can’t change someone who does not want to be changed. Small disagreements evolve into larger ones in the future. I suggest that you follow T-Swift’s lead and gently let the other person know that you two are “never, ever, ever, ever getting back together.”