Making Your Significant Other Feel Significant
Published: Monday, September 9, 2013
Updated: Monday, September 9, 2013 17:09
Often times I overhear women complaining that their partner never listens or fails to understand what they’re trying to say. On the other hand, I can attest that my observations show men usually protest the fact that their other halves do too much of the talking. It is a baffling concept, really. We invest our time in these emotional and romantic relationships to turn around and make complaints and detest each other for doing things that annoy us to no end. But maybe there is a way to rekindle those feelings you had on the first date without dozing off because of how boring the conversation became when she started talking about the chat she had with her mother on the phone today.
Listen. It is a simple theory, but I promise it works. Make eye contact, show that you are taking the time to hear and comprehend what your significant other is saying. You two are one as a couple, and without this element in a relationship, it’s a struggle to communicate with one another about anything when the other half is not paying attention. Topics can include finances, sex, emotions, marriage and hundreds of others things couples can talk to each other about, which leads into the next way to improving your relationship.
60/40. If you truly feel like you need something in a relationship that you are not receiving, it is best to just go ahead and be up front about it. It has been said before that a relationship should be 60/40. Give more than you receive. Talking about things you need in a relationship should not only be in the beginning when you are working things out and figuring if one another is a good match. Go ahead and open the car door for him, or make her breakfast in bed. Shake up the stereotypes and show your significant other why they’re so significant to you.
Hug it out. Want to say, “I love you” without saying one word? Embrace him in a huge bear hug. Plus, not only are you helping your partner feel loved and wanted, but you’re helping yourself too. Hugging releases hormones like oxytocin and dopamine, which are natural anti-depressants. As said by Reese Witherspoon in “Legally Blonde,” “Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands; they just don’t.”
With all movie quotes aside, relationships are hard work, and anyone who says they’re not is a liar. However, just because something demands hard work doesn’t mean it isn’t fun or worthwhile. You are obviously with someone because you care about them and want them by your side. Appreciate the person you’re with and all other aspects will fall into place.
Amber is a sophomore majoring in Journalism.