Observing the Concept of ‘Best Friends’
Published: Wednesday, October 30, 2013
Updated: Wednesday, October 30, 2013 16:10
When I was younger, I struggled to reveal who my best friend was. There could only be one, and you could only be another’s best friend as well. But, in our society it is never really established where we learn about these unspoken social rules or rating system among our acquaintances.
As I look back on the concept of “the best friend” today, I wonder how I even maintained a best friend. Being friends with someone is a truly beautiful relationship, if nurtured and handled lovingly. Like a plant, if you don’t water it and take care of it, you will be soon watching it die.
Unfortunately, today’s society does not allow time for meaningful relationships all the time. Contacts and associates really build a professional morale and can be established by the flick of a business card, but a new friend to break in the primary title of “best” certainly holds a daunting list of responsibilities and qualities necessary to be considered and hired for the job.
So what makes a friend reach “best” status in the modern society? Perhaps it is trustworthiness, compassion and similar beliefs, many of the attributes we notice ourselves looking for in a romantic relationship. The greatest difference of all, is this person is going to be someone you devote time in a way that is solely based on companionship, granted that you aren’t attracted to him or her physically or decide he or she could be your partner.
The trouble with best friends and this social game we play is that others cheat or work the system a little more now than we did when we were younger. I’ve had “best” (I use that term loosely here) friends go behind my back and say terrible things, which were more often than not, untrue.
Not to mention change their morals and beliefs, which transforms them into an entirely different people, not always for the better. So, in reaction to that, I’ve certainly withheld my trust and friendship with many others due to unfortunate experiences.
I think the problem lies in us. We attract certain people by our actions and personal convictions. If you party and go out, chances are the crowds you’ll attract and associate with yourself will be of the same caliber.
Somewhat of the same concept goes for dating. We often look for similarities in others to identify with in order to create a foundation of friendship, perhaps in hopes of becoming close enough to deem them the title of “best friend.” Whether or not you believe in this system, it’s unavoidable around you. Circles of friends and acquaintances surround us and are a way for humanity to rank individuals’ importance in their lives.
Amber is a sophomore majoring in public relations and advertising.